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Candlewhisper Archive wrote:I'd note again that gender ans sexuality can't really be conflated, but I guess what you're describing there is genderfluid.

But then the whole binary gender notion feels like a construct anyway, as does arbitrary sexuality. If I've been attracted to a woman before she physically transitioned from the male body she was born with, what does that make my sexuality? If I prefer to rp female characters, and prefer adult entertainment where I can imagine I'm a lesbian, what does that mean? What if half the time in my dreams I'm a woman? What if there's straight men that I'd kiss, but I've only ever lived women?

I feel comfortable in a male role with a female wife, but that doesn't categorise me as cis straight male, and not fitting that exactly doesn't categorise me as anything else. I'm just me!

I hear you.
I'm an asexual straight male - meaning I'm not gay. Sex isn't a biggie in my life. Sensuality is. I love women from afar, in my idealised version of women and womanhood in my own little world. (Whatever androgyny I have, and I do feel it, I keep it to myself. Let me just tell you that I went to a bookstore once, I was about 12, 13 y. o., and the shop attendant asked me Can I help you, miss?. How can one forget something like that??)
I see a gorgeous, hot woman? Great. I look at her and envy her for her beauty and sensuality, but I have absolutely no desire to have sex with her.
It's a bit like going to an art museum. I don't need to own the painting to admire it.

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